The Moment I Decided to Change: My Weight Loss Journey as a Busy Working Mum

“It’s time to stop living as though you can’t have what you want.”

For years, I told myself I didn’t have time. Between teaching, motherhood, and trying to keep everything running, I’d put my own health last. And then it happened. I got a new battery for the scales and got the courage step on. Shock horror! I was 93kg and getting bigger by the day. I'd hit emotional and mental rockbottom. I didn't like my work, my marriage and I wasn't beign the parent I wanted to be. I'd been reaching for food everytime I was sad, happy, anxious, tired, worried - and I was waiting for someone to rescue me.

I considered stomach surgery and qualified for it, but here's what I eneded up doing. And it worked. I released over 25kg without surgery. Here is exactly what I did.

1. Making a Decision

The first thing I did was decide that 'I will not quit on me anymore'.

The word decision means to cut off any other option. And that was exaclty what I did.

I was no longer going to 'try' or 'give a new diet a go'. I decided that no matter what that my My health was no longer negotiable — it would be, and continues to be my number one priority.

Without health we have nothing. I'd watched an well known influencer I personally know nearly loose her life to cancer. She had four little children. I'd already seen a number of mothers with young children lose the battle and I'm so thankful she survived.

I finally understood that nothing else truly works if I’m running on empty. The moment I made that decision — to honour my body and my energy — everything began to shift.

2. Visualise Daily

Each morning, before I check my phone or step into the day, I take a few quiet moments in that dreamy half-awake thetastate to connect with my intention. I see myself already living as that version of me — calm, light, confident, peaceful in her skin. The more I visualise her, the more she becomes me. That daily connection keeps my mind focused and my energy aligned with where I’m heading.

And this step only takes a few minutes each day. If you don't know much about the power of visualisation I recommend reading the book Visualise. It is overflowing with the research and steps you need to become a powerful visualiser who gets everything she wants.

3. Act Like the Woman Who’s Already Achieved It

Ask yourself: what does she eat? How much water does she drink? How does she think, dress, move, and speak to herself? Then start doing those things now.

I remember hearing Victoria Beckham say to David on her Netflix show, “I haven’t eaten chocolate since the 90s.” She’s decided — and she lives from that identity. That’s what powerful change looks like. You don’t wait until you’ve arrived — you become her now, one choice at a time.

Now I'm not saying give up chocolate, but I am saying ask that future version of you who has achieved that goal how she did it.

My future self showed me that shed done a nutrition course, drank a lot of water every day, was fullly hydrated, loved eating 50% vegetables at every meal... moved daily. She let me know that the outside of the supermarket was the safe place for me.

It was a really simple formula. And it worked.

4. Mini Micro Steps and Goals

Transformation happens in tiny, consistent moments — one walk, one glass of water, one meal choice at a time. It’s not about perfection; it’s about momentum. If it took three years to reach your goal, would you still do it? Of course you would — because three years will pass anyway. Every small action is a promise kept to yourself, a vote for the woman you’re becoming.

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